Hi there,

It’s Coco. This is a dating manifesto— what I look for in dating, in a partner, and in life— a concept I penned in this essay.

I hope that this will be a pleasant read for you, and do share yours with me yours if you have one (DM here).

On facebook dating (yes I know, it’s a thing), I wrote:

“Looking for a partner where, being with each other is better than when we were on our own.

A genuine connection, spontaneous adventure, for a day, a month, or a lifetime.”

I think this sums up my philosophy. I still want to do the cliche things in life, but better together than alone. I get along best with someone that values growth, and that we help each other awaken our best selves, and become the best version that we can be.

Over the years, I’ve learned to be less goal-oriented and to value the present, to treat each date as a special experience of its own, and to treasure the memory even if it doesn’t lead to a future.

And to go a bit deeper—

On Positivity

One either sees everything from a positive light or from a place of negativity, and none in between. The ability to turn a series of unfortunate events into fun learning experiences is attractive.

And I believe our internal state is very much written on our face. So I prefer those with an ever large smile.